en·gage | [verb: do it] | verb

  1. to attract and hold by influence or power
  2. to interlock with: MESH
  3. to bind (as oneself) to do something; especially to bind by a pledge to marry

synonyms: agree, bind, catch, commit, contract, guarantee, obligate, oblige, undertake, vow

“When you start to engage with your creative processes, it shakes up all your impulses, and they all kind of inform one another. “– Jeff Bridges

A few years ago, I got engaged. We bought beautiful handcrafted sterling sliver rings rings from an art gallery… the pieces were called “The Engagement Ring” –  not traditional rings. There are no diamonds. We made our promises to engage each other”s attention, emotion and interests for 5 years. To me, this means looking good, being optimistic, taking chances…. Shaking it up. I planned to work hard to be engaging for the next five years… for the sake of love. This is a non-traditional approach – but five years is a long time…. and I don’t ever want to make a promise that I cannot keep.

When the five year promise was over – we re-assessed.  We signed on for another year.  Yes, just one. We found that we had fallen into the typical pattern of life – getting comfortable with one another. Not always engaging.  Sometimes engaging in arguments.  I’ll check in with you next year – let’s see where we’re at.

Being engaging is challenging work; it’s constant effort.  But – isn’t this what we should be doing in this life – constantly engaging ourselves with the people around us?  Constantly inter-meshing, attracting – and allowing ourselves to be attracted?

“How much do you engage yourself in what”s truly real and important in life? That”s the individual question.” – Ted Danson

In 2006, I had the honor of living for 6 weeks with one of my dearest friends. She managed to engage me quite often; in memorable conversations and activities, and I am so thankful for these times. She pulled us from the apartment and off to yoga when I didn’t want to go. She engaged me in the “bountiful goodness” of beet juice every morning, and changed my life forever. Bottom line: she encouraged change when I needed it and I am a better person for it.

“Not to engage in the pursuit of ideas is to live like ants instead of men. “-Mortimer Adler


Philosophy In Action

This week, make it your duty to engage another person (attract him and hold him by influence). Perhaps you'll find yourself teaching someone how "easy" it is to plank  every day. Maybe you'll be speaking to a co-worker on a topic that they are not familiar with… and they'll learn from you. Whatever the case, do your part in serving the world. It's our duty to engage others… to share… to inspire…to promote change where its needed.

Color Your World

Aspen gold, the color of June, can enhance articulation and verbal dexterity.  It may even help when taking an exam or speaking in front of an audience.

Chakra Therapy

The Solar Plexus or third chakra acts as the sun inside of your body. As the element of this chakra is fire, your body utilizes that internal flame as energy.

Sole Training

This week, connect your feet with your brain more often. Lifting your toes will help to engage the peroneal muscles, the lateral ankle stabilizers. By staying connected, staying engaged, you can physically make yourself more stable and balanced.


  1. Renee Pesante
    Thursday, June 6th, 2013 at 3:48 pm ·

    Yes, “engage” is a tough one, especially in our techno society where sometimes we don’t ever have to really see, touch or be “engaged” with the people we’re involved with. So I use the idea that, as in a love partnership, to be “engaged” is the promise you’re making to connect deeper with someone. And what a perfect word to make us re-assess our relationships with our students and if and how we are engaged with them too!

  2. Cindy Frary
    Cindy Frary
    Monday, June 3rd, 2013 at 4:09 pm ·

    Thank you for this. I was struggling a bit on just how I could coach “engage”. You have given me much to consider, and opened up the box. :)

  3. lisa peterson
    Monday, June 3rd, 2013 at 9:17 am ·

    That is awesome Tracy!! By engaging others to support them in their training they may inspire them to join them. You are a great coach and mentor.

    • Tracy Vicente
      Sunday, June 9th, 2013 at 6:14 pm ·

      Same back at you, Lisa! Your full time job is to engage your clients as well and I am sure you feel such joy for them when their spark is ignited and they work hard to reach their goals :-)

  4. Tracy Vicente
    Sunday, June 2nd, 2013 at 6:02 am ·

    This is SO appropriate this week! Yesterday, some of my willPower girls did their first 5k. I asked them after as we sipped on some cool water “How do you feel?” They replied “AMAZING!” They want to do more. So, I replied “well, you need rides to these events. Have you considered asking your mom or relatives if they want to do this, too? Maybe we can meet during the summer and all train together?” They replied that their mothers and older sisters want to start running too, so, some moms could join us and we can begin a carpool. Ignite the spark :-) I also need to add that the girls are influencing other classmates, including boys, to plank and do the SEVEN STEPS OF WILLPOWER, and they are doing it :-) Thank you!!

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