You have no patience!”
My husband often chides me. True and false. I have little patience for small things… like heating up meals or reading instruction manuals, and I have tremendous patience for other things… like my two-year old, my studio, and…let’s put my husband on the top of that list, too!
This is true for all of us. Maybe not the specifics, but the gist. When it comes to our willPower, though, we tend to fixate on our faults and shortchange ourselves by saying “I’m not ____ (insert word of willPower here).” in a blanket statement. The problem with blanket statements is they “cover” the truth in some way.
This week, the assignment is to allow the areas of your life where you do have great PATIENCE to inspire PATIENCE in the other areas — with the caveat, I say, to not bother with the things that really don’t matter…like heating up leftovers or coming to a complete stop when no one is coming! Love and own your quirks. Address only those things that actually serve you and your willPower!
In football, my husband says the most patient position is the running back. (Not his position…not surprisingly!) The running back wants to burst through the line of scrimmage as fast as possible. But, the reality is…with a little PATIENCE, he might find a second opening that is even better. Waiting an extra half second often leads to a bigger gain…whether that gain is in yards or in…yen. Japanese yen.
PATIENCE is commonly associated with long-term investments, of which Japanese investors are notorious or famous (depending on your perspective!) “Patient capital” refers to the tacit acceptance by investors to forgo an immediate return in anticipation of more substantial returns down the line. As an investor in yourself, this concept is also highly relevant.
PATIENCE is a word associated with willPower because it involves the wait, the uncertainty, the feeling of helplessness, and the drowning out of the voice inside, saying now, now, NOW!
The biggest deterrent to transformation of any sort is impatience. The ego’s desire for immediate gratification overrules the higher self’s understanding that change is on its own timetable. And, that timetable may be years for an investor, months for a transformation client, or an extra half second for a running back.
This week, let’s get clear on what PATIENCE is not, so we may get clear on what it is.
1. PATIENCE is not hesistation; it is intelligence.
2. PATIENCE is not cowardly; it is calculated.
3. You aren’t just “born with it”; PATIENCE comes with practice and experience — as witnessed in grandparents and…veteran running backs.
4. PATIENCE is not a standalone strength; it connects readily to other words of willPower. With PATIENCE, you have more CONFIDENCE…you TRUST…and you CHANGE and TRANSFORM more sustainably and powerfully.
5. PATIENCE is not static; it is dynamic. It ebbs and flows, so when impatience strikes, get curious to see what’s going on…that is, what’s really going on.