This week, we boost our willPower through our listening skills. When we fail to listen, we fail to learn. When we fail to learn, we fail to grow and we oft repeat the same mistakes. The adage, “You were born with two ears and one mouth for a reason”, reminds us of the inherent value in this week’s word. So, in the spirit of “listening”, I craft this week’s Seven Steps by… buttoning up and garnering the wisdom from others. Click the links below to expand upon any of these Seven Steps.
1. Prevent “listening” loss.
Hearing is simply the act of perceiving sound by the ear. If you are not hearing-impaired, hearing simply happens. Listening, however, is something you consciously choose to do. Listening requires concentration so that your brain processes meaning from words and sentences. Listening leads to learning. Most people tend to be ‘hard of listening’ rather than ‘hard of hearing’.” ~University of Minnesota Duluth
2. Create intimate connections.
It’s a fundamental human need to have your feelings acknowledged, whether or not someone agrees with you. Honest to goodness listening creates an intimate connection and makes you feel cared about.” ~Karen Hellesvig-Gaskell
3. Affirm another’s worthiness.
Listening with an open heart and without agenda is one of the greatest gifts we can offer someone. By listening without judgment, you are affirming their worthiness as a person. You are holding up a mirror so they can see and hear unfamiliar parts of themselves. Listening can relieve suffering and promote peace and understanding. ~Elizabeth Murray
4. Gift another the experience of being heard.
Listening isn’t waiting for your turn to talk. It’s not devising your case in between pauses. It’s not even about understanding what the other person means, necessarily — and it’s certainly not about agreeing. Listening is giving the other person the experience of being heard.” ~Danielle LaPorte
5. Stay true to your inner calling.
Listen to the voice you hear, and the drumbeat only you can feel, and honor it, while honoring it in those you love as well. It is the ultimate act of unconditional love. In being true to your inner calling, you may ruffle some feathers but you’ll have the peace and satisfaction of knowing that you fulfilled your divine purpose and encouraged others to do the same.” ~Wayne Dyer
6. Save money and your relationships!
Genuine listening has become a rare gift—the gift of time. It helps build relationships, solve problems, ensure understanding, resolve conflicts, and improve accuracy. At work, effective listening means fewer errors and less wasted time. At home, it helps develop resourceful, self-reliant kids who can solve their own problems. Listening builds friendships and careers. It saves money and marriages.” ~Dianne Schilling
7. Includes a self-correcting mechanism.
Begin to listen to what you say. Don’t say anything that you don’t want to become true for you.” ~Louise Hay
By the end of this week, see how many nuggets of knowledge, kernels of insight, and clusters of goodness you can extract by simply…listening.