This week’s word takes us out of the uncertainty of IF into the inner certainty of our inner light and worthiness.
Without you, my knees are shaking, my voice trembles. I do not raise my hand because I fear my question is a dumb one. I do not say “yes” to what I want or “no” to what I do not want. I live life from the sidelines and, like most of us, I never realize my full potential. I play scared…I essentially live out the ego’s nightmare.
So, how do I elicit confidence? Confidence is not reserved for extroverts and confidence is not blind faith either. Confidence often arises from experience, but the great news is…it doesn’t have to. Rest assured, there are levels of confidence that we all can tap into no matter what our entry point or personal disposition.
In planting the seeds of a new desire, we elicit “entry-level confidence”. That is, simply believing we can be (or do) something that sparks our heart’s attention. This entry-level confidence is often evoked from witnessing another. The 4-minute mile is the perfect analogy here. Once it was achieved, countless others achieved it. Before it was achieved, collective confidence lacked and that severely limited many amazing athletes.
In “higher states of confidence”, our belief often stems from the memory of being or experience of doing something repeatedly. Bring back the memory of learning how to swim or ride a bike. Once that act was successfully achieved and repeated, our confidence grew exponentially.
So, our Seven Steps remind you of who you are. That confident energetic being. Let’s get back to that!
1. Lack of confidence usually arises from a comparison of some sort. Whether it’s comparison of yourself to another or to an experience or expectation of yourself, it is not present moment and therefore somehow destructive.
2. Avoid limiting or grandiose labels of yourself or another. Realize none of us are “all or nothing” in terms of character traits. In this case, all (or always) confident…or all (or always) not confident. Further, by noticing your confidence in one area of your life, see how you can inspire it into others. What is the difference between where you are confident and where you are not?
3. Rely on your short-term memory. Our brains are wired with a negativity bias, so failures of any sort can set us back immensely. When you think of this step, think of athletes that have to release the last play from their memory and focus on the next. In real life, too, we must, so that we continue to act with boldness and in alignment with our heart-centric desires.
4. Recognize the gift of uncertainty. The word, “uncertainty”, may trigger negative feelings, such as unease, anxiety, or fear, but the word itself is inherently neutral. And, without uncertainty, very positive traits of creativity, innovation, and the wonders of life would never be apparent. We would be no better than robots. Input A = Outcome B…always and forever…(yawn!)
5. Spring “clean” your house and your tribe. If something(one) in your life is not bringing you joy, why are you keeping it in your immediate space energetically or physically? Even with those that currently “have to” play a role in your life, create healthy boundaries that protect you and ultimately preserve your confidence.
6. Be confident in your divine “support system”. Look at everything as somehow working for you, whether through lesson or gift of abundance.
7. Inspire confidence in others. How can you be of service? What comes easily to you that does not to others? This is a sign of your unique talents…not to be taken lightly! Your unique talents are your gifts to the world. What you say or do tomorrow could be a life-changing event for someone else…think about it…act upon it.
Established in being, perform action.” ~Bhagavad Gita