What do you believe about yourself? About the world? About other people? About how things work…or don’t work? This series of questioning is highly relevant to your willPower and what shows up in your life.
Your reserve of willPower is dictated by what you BELIEVE.
Change your beliefs, change your world. It’s that simple….and also, that difficult.
When you believe in yourself, you light up…internally and externally. The light inside you outshines the darkness of limiting beliefs. You become unstoppable.
On the other hand, the moment you define yourself is the moment you limit yourself. The world will return to you supporting evidence of what you believe. Good, bad, or neutral. You are not being rewarded or punished; you are being co-creative.
Limiting beliefs are the precursor to your reality. Everyone has limiting beliefs, so don’t beat yourself up for them. (this approach never works well anyway!) Instead, practice this week’s Seven Steps to expand beyond them:
#1 Identify your limiting beliefs within the various roles you play in life.
Think about the stories you tell… and keep telling… about yourself and the “way things work”. Often, our limiting beliefs pattern around our roles in life. These roles include the ones we are born into as well as the ones we self-select. Parent, spouse, sibling… your nationality, gender, physical trait, personality trait… your name, the company you work for, your memberships… your work title, academic title, your passions and pursuits. While many of our roles bring us great joy, they all — every single one of them — cage us to some extent. We are limited by our roles. So, step outside these roles for a moment to survey how they’re confining you and where they’re suffocating you. In the areas of suffocation… (see next)
#2 Question these beliefs.
Ask yourself, where did they come from? What is behind them…really? Fear, guilt, inherited view, traumatic experience…unawareness, habit, social conditioning? These are all strong possibilities. With awareness of causation, it’s time to choose…
#3 Choose expansion over constriction.
Catch yourself falling into habitual mental patterns of interpreting the world or describing yourself. What is really true? What do you want to be true? Now, it’s time to go deep…
#4 Reconnect with your inner essence.
Meditate, find a quiet spot with pen and notepad…or phone and keyboard, watch a sunset, listen to the sounds of nature live…or via headphones, draw a ceremonial bath…wine optional, take a slow-moving yoga class that really allows you to soak into the poses…and experience yourself. When we weave these practices into our daily lives, we not only feel better about ourselves, we start to tap into our divine nature. This is where we can start to unleash our locked-up personal power…
#5 Look at what shows up in your life as belief-originating.
See patterns of behavior, events, and circumstances as tethered by your limiting beliefs. Then, smile and move on… with the commitment to a more expansive you.
The Universe will mirror to you what you believe…often with a touch of humor.
Recently, my husband introduced a “Destroyer” story into his podium speeches. His intent was to dissuade couples from counting family vacations as quality time. The “Destroyer”‘s identity? Our three year old, of course! As soon as he told me the story, I shook my head. Be careful what you’re putting out there, I warned him. Within a week, our daughter went from a sound sleeper in her own bed to a scaredy-cat climbing into our bed…every single night. Yes, the Universe is impeccably responsive…and is enjoying a good chuckle at our romantic expense!
#6 Be kind, but firm.
Now, many of our limiting beliefs have been there for decades, so we have to practice self-kindness as we escort them to the exit. These LB’s are like old friends that want “one more round” or your crazy Aunt Edith on Thanksgiving Day. So, be kind, but be firm…as you are with your Aunt Edith as you guide her to the door with a doggie bag of leftovers. Keep nudging them until they’re out of sight…and out of mind.
#7 Celebrate expansion and encourage it in others.
When you do choose differently, it’s a time to acknowledge and rejoice. You know how hard that was not to go down that well-trodden neural pathway?! Only you really know. So, give the gift of acknowledgement to yourself. This approach always works. Realize we always have the opportunity to reinvent ourselves and write a new chapter.
If you want your fortunes to shift, you have to begin telling a different story.” ~Abraham