graffiti hallway waiting |The willPower Method®

“When one door closes another opens.” Every time we face tragedy or transition in life , inevitably, we are going to be told this quote by someone.  It is a nice encouragement, but it makes me think, “what if a door doesn’t open quickly and you sit in silence for a long time? What if that “door” IS the entire hallway, with room to pace, resolve, reflect, choose, fight for what you want and make the decision on which door to walk through on your very own?”

The wisdom and growth leading to happiness and contentment is more often found in the transitional, frustrating and sometimes dark hallway. We are all in a waiting room of some sort, between where we are and where we are headed. We easily become expectant on a determined, narrow-viewed search for the next door to open just knowing that this time it must be the opportunity that will make all of our hopes come true.  Once resolve has been made in the avenues of the hallway, the next “open door” may open.  We forget that halls are a place to wait, examine,  grow and reflect inward before we are ready for our next door.

Although it may seem endless, much is learned in the wait. It brings up some of our deepest longings and questions. Let them be voiced and searched. Keep options and eyes open. The ‘door’ may not look like what you have envisioned, but an even greater treasure may be being built behind the ‘door’ that you least expected. Do not be distracted by pretty paint and intricate paneling. It may be the the dull brown door with the crack down the middle and the rusty door knob that houses the least expected gift that you didn’t even know you were waiting for.

6 helpful tips while in a transition:

  • Remain vigilant, confident and hopeful.
  • Keep goals written, visions alive and eyes open.
  • Have a ‘clean slate.’ How you leave one room is how you will enter the next.
  • Return to the heart of who you are, your purpose and desires.
  • Be aware of your time. It’s a choice of whether to be frustrated or purposefully content.
  • Get to work. Turn your waiting room into a work room. A hallway isn’t only to sit. It’s to prepare, restore and strengthen from the last journey into your next. Hallways are a place to camp, not to live.

It’s how you respond in the hallway and waiting room that determines where you’ll go. The healing, answers, joy and greatest fulfillment may actually be found, not in the next open door, but in the camping ground of the hallway. It is important to look at our waiting rooms and hallways with colorful hope and purpose. Maybe the heart of your next journey is determined by how time is spent in the hallway.


  1. Meg McNeely
    Wednesday, November 20th, 2013 at 5:02 pm ·

    This was such a great article. Well described and so very true. I guess most of us are hallway hangers, which I now see is a good thing. Thanks for this Shana. It truly resonates.

  2. wendy
    Tuesday, November 19th, 2013 at 10:54 am ·

    liminality is such an important now.