Anything with an incubation period invites both love and fearful speculation, tempting us to go “out of order” in hiding our fear and attempting to control things we simply cannot. There’s an alternative, of course. We can protect our minds, practice patience, and actively commit to staying anchored to this present moment.
- “When will you ______?”
- “Are you sure it’s safe to _____?”
- “You better _____.”
- “Watch out for _____.”
- “So, does this mean _____?”
- “What if _____?”
- <<Insert your external non-serving chatter here>>
Although well-intentioned and seemingly harmless, these questions and commentary all contain elements of limitation, fear, or future expectation, enticing us into a controlling mindset and living out someone else’s experience of life. We often live as if we are in control over our own lives and destiny and we will do just about anything to maintain an illusion of control. To feel powerful and in control, we act out and do things that give us a semblance of control. We think, “I can’t surrender, I can’t let go…all hell will break loose.” But, it is the opposite – the armor we put on, the forcing and resisting, the pushing and pulling – that’s when hell actually breaks loose.
In the spirit of being fully present in our PATIENCE, here is our “let-go” list for the week:
Day One: Cravings
Appreciate your cravings as internal wisdom from your body or a temporary adjustment to a new meal plan. Cravings can signal deficiencies, hormonal imbalance, and/or resistance to change. This is why they are prevalent during pregnancy, a certain time of the month, or when on an extreme diet. If there is no health issue or concern, acknowledge your cravings in healthy, mindful ways that support your goal.
Day Two: How this will all play out
Patience is closely linked to trust. When we trust, we find it easier to be patient. So…trust. Today is a day to celebrate; a new day we’ve never experienced before. Relax and enjoy this day as much as possible. Your body responds to everything you think and feel.
Day Three: The need to be better or perfect
Stop demanding perfection from yourself (or anyone else) and just be perfectly in the moment. Allow yourself to have mediocre training days. Recognize progress is not always linear. In fact, it rarely is.
Day Four: The annoying elements
Infuse your situation with love, gratitude, and patience for all the elements…even the annoying ones!
Day Five: Complaints
Whatever your current ailment or frustration is, the more you complain, the more you will feed your inner and outer turmoil.
Day Six: Future scenarios
There is a time and a place for scenario planning. Carve it out deliberately. If you are unable to shake the anxious thoughts, go workout. Exercise is the best remedy for any kind of mental or emotional stress.
Day Seven: Keeping score
Tit for tat retaliation or zero-sum thinking keeps us in a ping-pong game of life. That is, constantly reacting, defending, and battling. By letting go of the scorecard, we can bring more patience into the unfolding. Instead of wasting our time keeping score, scheming how we will get even, suspecting malicious intent, or greedily securing our share of the pie, we sit back and allow the negative energy to pass over us. Never to touch us. In patience, we stay grounded in our worthiness, living out our dharma, and honoring our intent to lead a soul-satisfying life.
Ahhhh…feeling more patient already! Stay tuned for Patience Week Two.