Commitment is a promise to another, a cause, and, ultimately, to yourself. To stay true to yourself. To stay calmly seated even when unexpected turbulence arises and your heart begins to race. Commitment, in its highest form, is a promise to never abandon yourself.
Commitment is a vehicle of love. A symbolic honoring of your purest intentions. A contract to keep yourself accountable to your dreams and desires, to what you love, to what makes your heart sing.
Commitment is a set of binoculars that can see past the storm…and past the separation or the lack you fear. You need not be “right” to feel safe in a relationship, you just need commitment at a heart-to-heart level.
Beware, though, of compromise sneaking into your commitments. Compromise is fear-based (e.g. if I don’t give in, x will happen) while commitment elicits deeper love. When compromise isn’t there, all parties involved have to figure out the highest and best way to proceed. You are not caving in. Not this time. Your presence is needed. And you cultivate a practice of presence with another. A precedent of strength and, ultimately, a call to your magnificence.
There is great fear. From those who seek compromise.” ~Joshua G. Johnson
Commitment is planting a seed, nurturing that seed, and providing the optimal conditions for this seed to grow…and flourish. This seed can be represented in your garden, your children, your relationships, your career, and your fitness. In all of the above, your commitments require nurturing and attention.
We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.” ~Abraham Lincoln
Commitment begins sentences with “I am”, not “I will”. We seek to attract and energize our best, not to keep things an arm’s length away and always out of reach.
There was a long time when I was the only person in the world who called myself a writer… You have to be the first one to say it.” ~Elizabeth Gilbert
Commitment requires dedicated effort. If you are committed to being a writer, you write every day. If you are an athlete, you commit to training every day. If you are injured, you commit to your body’s healing and the self-regulation that entails.
Commitment is the glue of your dreams and desires. It holds things together even on the days when things appear to be falling apart. Commitment challenges the negative committee convening in your head and holds your higher vision…at least, it does when the commitment is worthwhile.
…which begs the question, when are our commitments not worthwhile? Here’s my 7-day checklist.
Day 1: Are you committed to the wrong numbers? Age. Weight. Salary. IQ. Think about how various numbers define, limit, or constrain you from living the life you were born to live.
Day 2: Is there congruence between your stated commitments and your day-to-day expressions? Bring awareness to your words, actions, feelings. How are they aligned or resistant to your commitments?
Day 3: Do your commitments have an expiration date or an exit strategy? For example, have you ever committed to weight loss for an event…did it stay off after the event? If not, why? How can you revise and improve the commitment this time? How can it serve you in the long-run?
Day 4: Do your commitments empower or enslave you? Notice whether you feel heavy or light when you think about your various commitments. Can you ofellas or restructure any of the “heavy” ones?
Day 5: What do you see when you close your eyes and say the word, commitment? Is it surprising? Journal about it.
Day 6: Are your commitments pleasing to your soul? In meditation, ask yourself, “What do I want?”, “What is my purpose?”, and What am I grateful for?” See how they relate or oppose.
Day 7: Are your commitments energy-depleting or energy-giving? Sometimes, our commitments choose us…or we choose them despite the depletion. If they are energetically depleting, are you taking care of yourself sufficiently through other outlets? And, are these outlets healthy?
Breathe life into your keeper commitments with a caress, a change of scenery, a new perfume, or maybe just a pause to acknowledge your heartfelt gratitude…in heart-to-heart (H2H) plank.
In H2H plank, we create a symbolic heart with our hands and align it with our true heart. The heart chakra is a bridge between the lower and upper chakras integrating the physically manifest with the spiritual. In essence, connecting the body to the mind. When we feel disconnected from our bodies, we need to look at our commitments. What are we committed to that our hearts are rejecting at some level? For H2H plank instructions, watch this. For a H2H plank sequence that will leave you feeling strong from head to toe, inspired, and…committed, follow here or subscribe here.
Sound will be the future of medicine.” ~ Edgar Cayce
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