While CONFIDENCE supplies the inner belief to achieve our desires, this week’s word gives us an inner barometer for making decisions. Like the law of cause and effect, every action has a reaction…every reward carries a RISK. This week’s word reminds us it’s not about being reckless, but it is not about playing it safe either.
Risk frightens our ego as we expose ourselves to the downside in the form of injury, danger, loss, or hurt. There is a risk of injury when skiing, but there is also the enjoyment that only the experience of skiing can bring. There is a risk of danger when traveling by air, sea, or land, but there is also a wonder and appreciation that only the experience of travel can bring. There is a risk of loss when we start a business, buy a property, or invest in a stock, but there is also the prospect of returns superior to inaction. There is a risk of hurt when we love deeply, but there is also the experience of love and intimacy that only deep loving affords. So, we must ask ourselves, what is the purpose of our lives? To read about adventure or to live adventure? To hide in the symbolic closets of our existence? Or, to experience joy, light, and love?
This week, we elicit RISK, our word of willPower, to figure out how best to maneuver ourselves in the direction of that which we wish to experience: adventure, joy, light, and love.
With our willPower, we learn the power of discernment to distinguish worthwhile (higher self-guided) risk from reckless (ego-driven) risk. That’s why this week’s Seven Steps involves a lot of checking in with our hearts and our bodies. With the wisdom within, we risk-take with the CONFIDENCE of right action:
1. See the role of past memories on current actions. Which memories are serving you and which are keeping you stuck? Think about the RISKS inherent in keeping these non-serving memories alive in your daily decision-making.
2. See the RISK inherent in the highlights of your life. When you took that trip, applied for that job, said yes to that amazing kiss, said no to abuse, when you welcomed change, believed in you, and took the “plunge” in any area of your life that felt “right”, what was the difference? How were “you” different? Which part of you were you listening to when you made these decisions?
3. Next, flip it around. See the RISK inherent in the low-lights of your life. (When you said no to that trip, did not apply to that job, said no to that amazing kiss, said yes to abuse, when you blocked change, didn’t believe in you, and did not take the “plunge” in the area(s) of your life that felt “right”) What was the difference? How were “you” different? Which part of you were you listening to when you made these decisions?
4. Incorporate pauses in your daily routine. Before reacting, reporting, responding, or deciding, employ a meaningful pause to come from the heart. Accompany with a deep breath, a close of the eyes, and/or hand over heart as needed.
5. For that thing that is scaring you, role-play different scenarios. Often, we are most scared by the word, “no”, which is such a minor consequence when we allow ourselves to think through the possibility of a “yes” and all of the streams that flow from that “yes”.
6. Contemplate the benefits beyond the desired outcome. Are there auxiliary benefits you might receive, things you might learn, or people you might meet in the going for? It is our nature to fixate on the end result and this creates constriction over expansiveness, struggle over ease, and a clinging tension over detached freedom. By letting go and enjoying the ride, we open ourselves up to the highest journey.
7. Look within at your trust and belief levels. When these are low, doubt creeps in and risk tolerance suffers. Trust and belief are yours to mold. Start within to trust and believe in yourself and move from there. “Risk” it to move from there!