Ok. It’s happened again. I’m in another foreign city, feeling overwhelmed, lonely and defeated.They’ve lost my luggage, one flight has been cancelled (until tomorrow) and the plane that I’m sitting on has been delayed “indefinitely”. (Indefinitely?) Frankfurt airport has been closed for “complete radar interference”. So – I’ll sit on the runway, without a clean change of socks, or a toothbrush, at the mercy of i-dont-even-know-who. Poor me. (??)
In 10 weeks, I’ve been home for only 6 days. My recent life has been a powerful adventure, all thanks to my company, The willPower Method®. I’m seeing far corners of the earth and I’m grateful. I’ve worked my tail off, educated, motivated, sweat, laughed, loved, ate, shared, danced and cried.
I love my life – yet sometimes love means disappointment. Love often means surrendering control to a greater force and still staying along for the ride. True love means finding a balance – but above all, celebrating the good, while accepting and troubleshooting the not-so-good. I’m working hard to do this… accept without embellishing, glamorizing or feeding the cr*p. Just quit the complaining.
The title of my post is “lovethislife”. Sometimes we find it difficult to love ourselves unconditionally – we’ve been conditioned not to be “selfish”. We are, instead, meant to give our love to those around us – to honour and support those people we love. You wouldn’t downplay or disparage someone you really love, would you?
People often comment about how exciting my life must be, so I downplay it, because there are usually envious undertones.. which I don’t know quite how to handle. The Truth is – YES, f*cking yes, my life is very interesting. I’m constantly stimulated by things that are new to my senses: art and food, customs and fashion, music, rules and laws and languages. I shouldn’t downplay what I’ve worked so hard for – but I often do. Sometimes I feel as through downplaying my exciting life has an element of grace to it, after all – I wouldn’t want to seem conceited… (right?). I talk about tiring layovers, language barriers and how overwhelming loneliness can take it’s toll during jet-lagged early morning hours.
Do you find yourself downplaying your life? Pointing out the potholes in the gorgeous path that you’ve created for yourself? I know you’re familiar with this quote – but perhaps you need a re-fresher (I did).
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure… Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. …. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – marianne williamson
Sometimes we’re distracted, and empathetic to other people’s envy. Defined as: “the desire for others’ traits, status, abilities, or situation”, envy is one of The Seven Deadly Sins, and it’s considered fatal to the spiritual process.
Ok – it happens. I won’t pretend that I don’t wish for things that other people have… the shoes, that car, your hot, thoughtful and smart husband… but envy is a powerful negative force… I mean, seriously – being jealous of what you have – how does that help me evolve? Being empathetic to someone else’s envy – how does this help either of us grow?
Maybe our trouble is that we can’t see how good we have it – it’s that proverbial grass. Yep – it’s always greener. Remember; the greenest grass has some little smelly bit of poop in there somewhere. It’s called called fertilizer – that decomposing organic material is the nutrient for growth. So, recognise your own misfortunes as nutrient – and just know that everyone’s got their own poop. It doesn’t need to be embellished… just let it do it’s job.
Bottom line – we need those uncomfortable moments to help us find our brightest times. We all have them – so don’t undercut the beauty in your world for fear of other’s envy. “Your playing small does not serve the world.”
This is an invitation to own it, friend – recognizing the balance helps your spirit stays grounded while you soar. Savor the grit, and embrace the occasional the darkness. Then, when the sun shines, shout about it! Feel the heat, the light, the impact, the crescendo… and then share it. As you do, you’ll inspire others to reach for more than they’ve already got. You’ll invite others to be proud of their own accomplishments.
#LOVEthislife – it’s your gift – and it won’t last long, baby.