Imagine you are starring in your own reality TV show. Would you change any of your behaviors, words, or actions?
On your last conference call, were you giving as much attention to the conversation as you would have had it been on video conference or in a face-to-face environment?
In a fitness class, would you brace your midsection a little more tightly if the instructor walked around and prodded at it?
If you answered yes to any of these (and, I hope you did…) then, integrity is going to be a fantastic opportunity for you (and me) to strengthen our willPower and to honor ourselves.
At the heart of integrity is self-honor.
Integrity is most commonly defined as doing the right thing from an ethical and moral standpoint. The majority of you reading this definition, is thinking:
Duh, of course, that’s common sense…
…that’s not me.”
Left there, we jump to the conclusion that this week’s word is only relevant for Tiger Woods, Jared from Subway, or Celebrity X experiencing Scandal Y. Hang on. Integrity goes beyond doing what’s “right” from a legal, moral, and ethical standpoint; integrity involves doing what’s “right” by our personal codes and values.
A genius is the one most like himself.” ~Thelonius Monk
Most like yourself. Your integrity is rooted in your wholeness. From the word, integer, meaning a whole number, a complete entity, integrity arises when you appear whole and complete.
A lack of integrity most commonly results from hiding the parts of ourselves that we dislike…the parts of ourselves that make us human. These parts tend to rear their ugly heads at the worst possible moment and in a way much less palatable than they would had we had allowed them to speak to us…through us…and into healing.
Perfectionism masks a self-worth issue. Excellence, on the other hand, evokes your willPower. Know the difference. Explore the difference…because your integrity hinges on it.
- Integrity is doing what you say you’re going to do…even after the initial excitement has faded…or an obstacle appears…or you’re just not in the mood.
- Integrity is sticking to your set of values even when it’s uncomfortable, inconvenient, painful, or problematic.
- Integrity in the gym is not cheating on an exercise or an effort. But, I also think it means being honest with yourself. When fitness becomes a form of punishment and you start treating yourself as a machine or a bad child, you lack integrity…for yourself.
- Integrity is more than just showing up, it’s showing up full. While “showing up” on a consistent basis is equated with dedication and eventual success, showing up full captures the essence of integrity and elicits a superior outcome…always. It brings a better you to the table. Showing up full communicates the message to the world that you are eyes wide open alive and ready.
- Integrity in your craft or career means being dedicated to quality service. I see it as a service to your future self. We never know how today’s quality service will pay off in future opportunity or profit.
- Integrity may mean having a difficult conversation or making an intervention. Integrity doesn’t permit rudeness, judgement, or jumping to conclusions, though. Integrity comes from the heart with the purest of intentions.
- Integrity is primarily an internal focus. Am I living out my values…not is so-and-so living out my values! Integrity is not concerning yourself in what others are doing…unless it is your business.
- Integrity can mean becoming a whistle blower. As an employee, member or representative of of an organization or cause, we become part of the collective eyes and ears, and this is part of our responsibility. When it is not any of our business, though, step away.
- Integrity knows the difference between doing the right thing and finding fault in others as a pastime. This “pastime” is a diversion technique from one’s own wounds and areas of personal growth. Avoidance.
- What does integrity look like in your life? Do you show up full? Are you properly fueled? Are you honest when you don’t know the answer? Are you striving for integrity even when it’s not easy?
Integrity can be applied in every area of our lives. Train with it. Move with it. Speak with it. Seek wholeness in yourself. Your willPower depends on it.