Falstaff: I will not lend thee a penny.
Pistol: Why, then, the world’s mine oyster, Which I with sword will open.” ~Shakespeare’s The Merry Wives of Windsor (1600)
When the world’s your oyster, you have the ability and the freedom to do anything or go anywhere. In the original context, there was mention of a sword, reminding us how difficult an oyster can be to shuck without a “sword” (or modern-day oyster knife!) Likewise in the modern context where your beliefs become the “sword”…
Unless your beliefs match your “world’s mine oyster” abilities and freedom, you will not be able to access your desired spaces and places. You must believe you can, you deserve to, and you are worthy of having, experiencing, or opening said…oyster.
This week, we move to transcend, mend, or demolish those beliefs that limit us.
We are never more than a belief away from our greatest love, deepest healing, and most profound miracles.” ~Gregg Braden
1. Lie back on the therapist’s couch.
A therapist listens in a kind and nonjudgmental way. It’s reassuring and…literally, therapeutic. Nodding, “Yes, I see.” Asking and prodding, “How did that feel? Tell me more.” Empathizing with “That must have been difficult for you.” Compassion. Understanding. Analysis. Your ingrained beliefs are deconstructed. Insight and aha moments abound. With clarity, you begin to make peace and understand your beliefs and their origins. Self-awareness is the first step to change.
2. Next, head over to the coach’s corner.
A coach leads the conversation and gives you instructions on what to do, how to do it…what to think and how to succeed. “Move like this.” “Good.” “Yes, over here!” “Go-go-go. You’ve got this.” “Chin up. Chest up. Eyes forward.” “Brace. Push. Up-up-up.” “Awesome. Way to work, champ!”
In this way, a coach helps you win. A coach helps you overcome doubts. A coach helps you see yourself. A coach helps you overcome challenges and reach your destination. A coach eventually becomes your inner voice. The inner voice that believes…in yourself.
3. Be open to the refuting evidence.
Once a belief is in place, we subconsciously seek validation of it. We ignore or criticize anything else. This becomes just as problematic with scientific research as it does with limiting beliefs. So, we need to be open to evidence of the contrary. Become a magnet to the solution, not a trash collector looking for more problems or violations.
Turn an “Oh that’s impossible.” statement to a “Wait, did you see so-and-so? She did it…why can’t I?”
Think about it. How does the proof of another with your “world’s mine oyster” ability or freedom change your mind as to what is possible? Let’s work from there…
When we form heart-centered beliefs within our bodies, in the language of physics we’re creating the electrical and magnetic expression of them as waves of energy, which aren’t confined to our hearts or limited by the physical barrier of our skin and bones. So clearly we’re speaking to the world around us in each moment of every day through a language that has no words: the belief-waves of our hearts.” ~Gregg Braden
4. Have amnesia about things that disenchanted or belittled you.
Beginner’s luck is not so much luck as it is a lack of limiting beliefs. Before you knew so much, before the stakes piled up, winning was easier, wasn’t it? When it comes to limiting beliefs, ignorance is bliss.
5. Join the winner’s circle.
Think less about what separates you and more about what unites you from your competition, your friends, family, acquaintances, or role models. Understand that separating thoughts foster excuses, jealousy, injury, and self-sabotaging behavior. Accept and ask. What do you want? What do you BELIEVE about what you want? And, what is hindering you from getting there?
The Warrior of the Light is a believer. Because he believes in miracles, miracles begin to happen. Because he is sure that his thoughts can change his life, his life begins to change. Because he is certain that he will find love, love appears. Now and then, he is disappointed. Sometimes, he gets hurt. Then he hears people say: ‘He’s so ingenuous!’ But the Warrior knows that it is worth it. For every defeat, he has two victories in his favor. All believers know this.” ~Paulo Coelho